Have you ever had one of those days where you don’t feel good enough? You look at all the other moms who are selling their goods with ease, chatting to the other moms in the school yard, always looking poised with lipstick on point? And just felt like you don’t measure up?
Maybe you are one of those moms awe envy, but feel like you are always trying to keep up?
Maybe you have had a really difficult time this year and haven’t made as much money as you had hoped. Or have had enough of working for someone else but are afraid to start your own business.
The last several months have been a tumultuous one for my family; and that doesn’t mean all bad. We moved to the US in October, and we absolutely love it. But a move of that magnitude comes with a few challenges. My son has been so blessed to fit right in at the new school, has made loads of friends, and has lots of playdates (it’s hard for me to keep up!) but as expected, moving a 5 year old rambunctious boy (at the best of times!) half way around the world (and we still aren’t settled) means a few behaviour challenges… (I’ll just leave it at that!).
Several months ago I brought a web designer on board to snazzy up the website, but was horrified at the result. I had paid in full. Worse still, with my domain hosting is still in South Africa which has created payment problems (they introduced a new verification process which can’t be completed over here!).
I was close to giving up, at least on EntrepreneurMom anyway.
So after all of this I looked around and thought: should I keep going?
I looked at other moms who were just nailing it and wondered: Am I good enough?
And this is what came back to me.
We are all created equal but we are also born with our own skills and talents, and in that way we are different. Different but equal. Equal, but different.
Our own personalities need to – want to – shine through and spill over into everything we do. For some, that may mean a louder more boisterous style that overflows with confidence. For others, that may mean quietly going about our business each day.
And no matter which way is our way, we have our own Family. A group that we resonate with whether we are quiet, loud, shy, introvert, extrovert. Our products and services fit just right with the Family that they are meant for. You don’t need to change; you need to find your Family.
You don’t need to change; you need to find your Family.
And yes, that makes us good enough in our right.
And whether loud or quiet, over the top or under wraps, remember to let your personality, that God-given talent out from under the blanket. A candle doesn’t shine less brightly because there is another flame next to it. So rise up mama, and let your flame rise high!
Sometimes “in our own right” may mean making small mistakes, and at times there may be a few colossal ones as well! Maybe it is what we did; or maybe it is what we failed to do. This is especially true in business as we learn new skills along the way.
The first time you tried to walk did you succeed or did you fall? What happened when you learned to ride a bike? Did you go soaring down the hill or did you also have a few scraped knees to show for your experience?
Business is no different. We are equal but different. Different but equal. Some may be born with more of a natural flair for sales, or creating, or working with people, or balancing the books. But all of it – all of it – can be learned, and needs to be learned. Why else would there be university closes and marketing diplomas, online and offline books, courses and seminars. Because you aren’t meant to STAY where you are mom, you are meant to GROW and flourish.
You aren’t empty, you are already filled, with the love and hope for yourself, your dream and what are the steps to make that real?
There is no failure, there is learning a lot of ways how not to do something. When you don’t win, you learn.
Sometimes when I just want to “switch off” I play solitaire on my phone (don’t laugh!). All the while I was playing I was thinking about the last few months: the move, my business, EntrepreneurMom, and feeling a little low. It all seemed so…hard! Then I won that game of solitaire. And the next. And the one after that too. They were quick easy games, no skill, no challenge, as if the cards had been laid out for me. I was bored. I didn’t want to play anymore.
“What is the use in playing,” I found myself thinking, “There is no challenge if I know that I’m going to win.”
BOOM. Absolute light bulb moment.
Life is just the same. We believe that we would be happy if everything we touched turned to gold, but maybe there really is thrill in the chase. Maybe, just maybe, we get a whole lot of satisfaction from the process of learning, building, creating, challenging ourselves and becoming more than we were.
My son plays a video game (yeah, ok so do I) called Diamond Rush. It came with no instructions; we figured it out along the way. “Ok, the purple diamonds are good, red are better and ooops, when rocks fall on your head and you lose a life”.
Separately we figured out what worked and what didn’t, and compared notes. Time and time again I went over the same parts trying to get the rocks to fall in just the right pattern to make the secret door open.
Is that not exactly what happens in business (and life)? We try and it doesn’t work so we try a different way. We compare notes with each other and move together stronger. Some of us may be on the next level, and we learn from them, not shy away.
So I took this to heart and began to create EntrepreneurMom’s new website on my own (with a template that I bought, just to be completely transparent!). But it’s still a learning curve and this time instead of saying, I can’t do that, I remember that even the most proficient designers had to start somewhere! And Google helps a lot!
And you know what, I am good enough.
Because WE ARE good enough.
In fact, we are even BETTER than that.
We are good enough because our businesses were created out of love, a passion. Maybe the drive came solely from wanting more for your family. Maybe the passion was born out of a product you created, or one that you discovered and loved.
But that too, is passion and love.
And you are good enough. And even better than that. Because even on your worst of worst day, you are a God-created, awe-inspired individual who has a purpose on this earth.
SO get up and go get ‘em!
What is the one thing you think is holding you back that you will BREAK THROUGH today?
Tell us in the comments below!