Ever feel as though the wind has been knocked out of your sails?
That you’ve hit a brick wall?
Feel like you’ve taken a sucker punch in a 10 round boxing match (or however many rounds there are in boxing!)?
Many mompreneurs go through tough times. When it feels too hard too hard to go on. Maybe I’m biased, but between balancing a home business, family, schooling, cleaning, it seems impossible and just one thing out of place can make life seem too hard.
Here are nine ways to help you to keep on going after a set back:
- Look for answers beyond yourself
I find solace in prayer. In fact I once read that if you are struggling to sleep at night God is letting you know that you’ve been too busy to talk to Him during the day, so you’re getting another opportunity to chat to Him! So go ahead, pray, if that feels right to you, or meditate, speak to the Universe, push BEYOND yourself. There is something so calming, rooting and uplifting (all at the same time) when you stop to ask for help from above.
- If everyone around you is acting dumb then….
Ok, the truth often really does hurt because we don’t want to face it. And if we are willing to face facts then we are really probably not going to want to face the person who is dishing it out. But sometimes you need to look around and if there is a reoccurring issue in your life, and if there is, then why?
- Is there someone you need to become?
This one came to me recently, as my son is struggling to find a present that had been hidden within the house. The item is in a box, and has been added to the bookshelf; looks just like another book at first glance. We’ve talked about how it is hidden in plain sight (and I explained what that meant). I also said that he’d probably need to touch the item to realize what it was; that it looks like something else.
So he goes through bouts of belief in himself, inter changed with anger, sadness, blame, you name it. It’s pretty amazing array of emotion s (he’s five)! I was explaining how he would find it when he was ready, that he will need to be patient, dedicated, and persevere. In other words (and this is what hit me): he would find it when he became the person he needed to become in order to achieve his goal.
So ask yourself:
Who do you need to become to achieve this goal?
What traits do you need to cultivate?
New skills to acquire?
- Sometimes you need to take the path more travelled to get to the path less travelled.
Think about that for a minute. Imagine you want to go camping, or find a deserted beach, or a quiet getaway. Chances are you didn’t leave your driveway and hit the dirt road immediately. You went on the main highway, maybe through tolls, and got stuck in traffic just like everyone else UNTIL you go to the secluded less travelled fork in the road.
Am I right?
Sometimes life deals us the exact same thing. We say we want something specific and we do all of the things we are told will build a successful home business but we still don’t achieve it. Maybe bills pile up. Maybe we need something extra (a course, a new website that we can’t afford, etc). Maybe that dream gets put on hold – not for long, certainly not forever – but maybe there really is something else we need to do right now to get us to the road we are looking for.
- Find the silver lining, even if it’s tinged with grey.
There are always something to be positive about, no matter how small it might seem in a heaping mountain of gloom – maybe it’s just watching your child sleep or morning snuggles – even being thankful for dirty dishes as a remembrance of having food to eat. Whatever it is – find that silver lining and hold on tight.
- Get moving
They say a change of scenery is as good as a holiday right? Depending on your situation getting moving might be going for a run, or writing down an action step to complete that day. It might even mean a new path but once you get started you build up momentum and can get going again.
What if you are going in the wrong direction? Don’t worry – once you start moving you can turn around. But it’s impossible to do that when you haven’t even gotten out the gate yet.
Guess Nike got this one right “Just do it” (and the rest will follow).
- Remove yourself emotionally
As moms we go through a rite of passage; we spend selfless (and sleepless) hours taking care of our families, and no matter how many tantrums, I hates yous and thrown food – we still love our little ones and stand by them. Funny thing though; we often carry that mentality over to our business.
We nurture our business, helping that (and hoping that it will) to grow into adulthood. No matter what happens we often stick to our business as if it was a child, and identify with it as a mother.
But it’s not and we aren’t
We sometimes need to step away and evaluate our businesses with fresh, un-attached eyes. Not like a mom looking at a child but as a business person. Sometimes it’s ok to let it go – maybe forever or maybe just a while
Anyone who took my EntrepreneurMom’s Start & Grow your Home Business e-course (you can still get the e-workbook here) started off by writing down (in detail) WHY they wanted to start a business; WHY they were doing the course, and what business and personal success looks like to them.
Every Single One of the responses that I received from moms was about how they wanted a better life for their family; more money to do things, more time to spend together. Every. Single. One. Remember that goal, which is more important than anything. If it means changing business ideas or even working t a full time job a little longer – make sure that it answers your WHY question!
- Let it go
When we face a harsh criticism, or a failed business, or a rut we are in we often replay our mistakes, our harsh words, and even more frequently; those nasty utterances that come from someone else. All of this will continue to wear you down, and stop you in your tracks; if you let it.
Let it go!
Yes, be mad, don’t forgive right away if you aren’t ready but let it go. Don’t replay it. The music won’t get any sweeter on repeat, so hit delete and find a bible passage, mantra, new song or ANY new words to take its place.
This is what I replace the negativity with:
“And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope. Now hope does not disappoint because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.”
- Plan and stick to it
Most of the time we get stuck either because we didn’t plan or because we didn’t carry out our plan to completion.
I’m such a firm believer in planning – how will you know where you are going if you don’t map it out? But one of the greatest ‘pros’ for planning is for getting you back on track when something threatens to knock you off.
- Believe in yourself
I’m sure you’ve heard the quote “Many people quit when success is just around the corner,” which often pushes us beyond our limits. Here’s the thing – it’s ok to take a break.
When failure (or perceived failure), harsh words, or criticism of you or an area of your life leave you feeling vulnerable and exposed, remember this: have faith in yourself.
You are not defined by what someone else thinks of you; and you are certainly not chained by their words. You are not defined by your struggles. You are defined by how you deal with what your life has dealt you.
Believe in yourself and in your mama magic, and let it all go.
Mama, we all have our tough days and sometimes those days stretch on a little longer. If you – or someone you know is facing hardship right now, I truly hope these words offer you support; we are in this world together to help each other out x